Special Edition: Making the first move: Women’s edition

The common misconception in society is that men have to make the first move. Over the past decade this had been proven wrong again and again. Although many older generations still believe that a woman asking a man on a date sends the wrong message, sometimes a woman has to make the first move. However, this can be intimidating and frightening because you don’t know what he will say or how he will react. I am here to help you make it just a little bit easier.

Be Bold. Women sometimes convince themselves that approaching a guy looks desperate. But it’s the exact opposite. Despite what people think sometimes it is up to the women to make the first move because the guy is (hold onto your hats ladies) too scared to. Not to mention that it takes whole heck of a lot of courage to be the one to break the barrier and trust me this move will not go unnoticed.

Don’t Be Afraid. The worst a guy can say in no. I know that this word can be hurtful and cause you to feel rejected but if you keep fearing the work ‘no’ then you will never get anywhere in the dating world or in your life. Strike up a conversation with him. Buy him a
drink. This works great, especially if the man you are interested in is just as shy as you are. If he says no then don’t be offended or put off. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or find you attractive; he could be preoccupied or maybe he is already in a committed relationship.

Be Confident. The sexiest thing a woman can wear is her confidence, so he’ll love it if you are the one who makes the first move. Why? It’s refreshing. Man love to be challenged and love it when something unexpected comes out of the blue. They love a woman who can be bold and confident in herself.

Flirt. Well, duh! But you would be surprised by the amount of woman who underestimate flirting. Not to mention that men love to flirt just as much as we do-and they love the attention. You want to be playful and sweet, not too aggressive, which is where some
women go wrong. You want to control the situation without scaring him off. Lightly touch his arm during conversation.
Smile. Ask him about himself. Contribute to the conversation but more importantly listen to what he has to say. Flirting can make things more comfortable and more fun.

 Be Direct. You may think your gestures are obvious but men just do not get subtlety the way we do. When communicating with men it is perfectly alright to be more straight forward than with you girlfriends. Not to mention that telling him what you do and do not
want helps a man feel less pressure to make all the decisions.

Best of Luck
Rylee

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